Hey folks, Dr Ro, gosh, we’re close to the end of the year and I wanted to share some personal thoughts with you as we’re going into 2020.
It’s been a tough year for so many people. I think if anybody said no it hasn’t been a tough year we’ve had an amazing year, then there’s probably only a few people in the world that have had such a great experience. Companies like Amazon I should imagine and that aside for those of you watching that have had challenges this year my heart goes out to you.
I know people have lost family members, businesses struggling, have had personal challenges with health and a lot of emotional ups and downs. I think for all of us, myself included, my family and even with our businesses we’ve had some difficult times. We’ve had to ride it out and make changes and adapt and reflect back on that.
As we’ve gone through the year, we’ve found there are certain areas we’ve grown really well and other areas we still need to work on and I think that’s the same for all of us. I wanted to share with you something I’ve tended to do at the end of a difficult period in my life but also just generally the end of the year.
That doesn’t have to be. It could be the end of the week, it could be the end of an experience, could be another project, so this is something you might want to take the opportunity to do not just now but also into the future as well. If you’ve got a chance to do this with somebody you care about fantastic, if you’ve got a chance to do it with a business associate or somebody you have a close relationship with over this year I think it’s an opportunity to do this as well.
There’s been a lot of circumstances that have happened to us this last year. I honestly believe this for many years now it’s not what happens to us that defines who we become but how we react to what happens to us. Without a doubt we are in a place right now where I think people are still in trepidation about what’s going to happen next year. There’s a lot of negative press out there. I have very strong views about how information is being communicated to us and I’m sure some of you probably read between the lines and you know what I feel about this. I think it’s a lot of fear driven out into the marketplace.
I think a lot of the propaganda, the media, a lot of government messages that have come out are very much geared towards lockdown tier four, three and people have reacted to it. It seems to be a natural reaction from everyone to react in a place of fear. I haven’t seen constructive proactive messages about this is how you can build up your immune system. This is what you can do to work on your mental health, this is what you can do to evolve as a human being.
There haven’t been those types of announcements and that kind of message coming out at a higher level tends to have had to come from within the community of those people that are conscious, emotionally developed teachers and guides in our lives. The lights that have been in this field for 30 years now and I’m still evolving into that space, I’m trying to get my message out and hopefully it’s helping in some way. But I do believe that if you look at the general media and the way we’ve been communicated to a lot of it’s been fear driven, of course, what that’s doing into next year is going to put people on the edge of needing to check the government website. We need to find out what we are allowed to do and what we are not allowed to do.
I want to shift your focus and give you a chance to have 15 minutes of just freedom. I have written down a simple approach that I personally have adopted myself over the years in different ways and I think this is a simplified version of that. But the first thing is you have to tune out. I actually do not generally follow the news. I don’t have terrestrial TV at home.
We don’t have the general news and the media and the radio or anything like that playing in the environment around the kids in the home space at all. That’s a choice that we’ve made. That means that we can filter what comes to us. I can choose when to pick up my phone, go to tune in to gather information and to tune out. I don’t know what your current setup is at the moment and how you personally arranged the terms of your home life, but if you take 15 minutes, just 15 minutes to tune out, turn the volume down and move aside the negativity that is literally hitting us from all aspects. It could be from your phone, radio, TV tune it out.
Give yourself 15minutes of mind full-time just an opportunity to reflect. That’s the first thing. The second thing is don’t even allow any negativity to come into your mind at this point, but to reflect back on magic moments. Now this is a phrase I picked up years ago and it’s a phrase that stuck with me. Magic moments are moments in your life I’m going to reflect back on 2020 magic moments this year. When you have had just that little moment of a glimmer of light.
One of them happened today for me. For example this Christmas my five year old daughter bought her these crystal sets. It’s like a mountain scene with tiny little cardboard cut-outs, a garden with trees and if you put them in this saline solution crystals form water comes up, and they form these beautiful scenes. Yesterday we did it and bear in mind from a child’s perspective everything is instant. It’s like in the moment so she sat there and she’s literally just watching this and then my other half said you have to watch and wait. Just before she went to bed a couple of hours later, tiny little crystals formed and she got all excited and this morning she woke up, the first thing she did she made a beeline for this crystal garden. It is amazing the mountain was all-white. The garden had little hedges and there were trees that came up pink with crystals and she was blown away.
What a magic moment.
I took a photograph and put it into my gratitude journal, and that’s what I’m talking about. These are magic moments. These are little moments in time.
Another one the other day when my two daughters were lying in bed together and they were just giggling and we filmed it. They could not stop giggling and that infectious childlike giggle is something we forget to do as adults. We don’t have terrestrial TV but we do have this subscription to Netflix and something else that we have, where we can watch documentaries.
I like comedy shows, so I’ve been very big on this over the last six months of really tuning into some people I believe are inspirational Dave Chappelle being one of those people. Really brings humour to the dark situations going on around us. We love to have these moments and this was one of those moments when we just switched off. Sometimes we have a laugh with the kids watching a funny film, for example.
Looking back over the year, think about moments that just either made you laugh and cry with joy when you saw a situation, something happened when another human being helped another. You have to tune in because there’s been so much negativity and everyone is talking about this happened to this person and all these sad things that happen over the year and I think my feeling is it has outweighed what has been some amazing moments as well during the course of the year.
If you can give yourself the opportunity to do that it shifts your emotional state. Vibrational energy will change and we’ve seen this through kinesiology. If you look at quantum physics it’s actually proven now when a human being shifts their focus onto something that’s inspirational, that is coming from a source of peace and love there is a shift in their body dynamics, not just on a physical level on an emotional level. Take time to reflect.
The third thing is asking yourself a question: what specifically has happened this year that is giving you a chance to grow? What were the things that happened this year that enabled you to grow? The change in business for example I’ve done a lot more online material content, we created a new product this year we took Communicating with impact online. That came out of the heart of Covid right in the middle of summer, and I made a decision to do that.
So, what things have triggered and what things have happened as a result of a trigger that have created something positive for you in your life, personal life and business. Number four is browsing photographs. We’ve done this for years and I found a video that my fiancé did, which is a video of photographs and video footage from a period of time in our lives.
Most years we will run a slideshow and we will sit down and look back over the year. Now the technology we have today captures moments for you and off that back of those memories you remember people and I think that’s the last two elements of this message I want to get across. Look at photographs that inspire you of the things you did this year that were amazing.
You start to tip the balance on all the shit that has happened this year and, in that process,, reflect on who this year has been an inspiration for you, who this year has brought magic into your life or has been a support to you, brought some level of normality to your life, or even just been at that moment of joy in your life.
They’ve done something at some point during the year you just go wow, I need to thank that person and then reach out to them and I’ve done this a few times over the last couple of weeks. It can be a WhatsApp message, voice message, or sending a card. Whatever it is, don’t be afraid to thank people.
It doesn’t take anything away from you, and in fact should, if anything, it’s your chance to give unconditionally, so I encourage you to do that.
I’m not saying this is the only thing to do but it doesn’t take long. It’s taken me roughly 11 minutes to explain it to you. I think if you were to take 15 minutes to do this exercise it’s amazing, tuning out just before you start the exercise.
Dr Ro signing out hopefully that was useful. Remember, 15 minutes to reflect.